This morning I got an email from Mary B notifying me that we have our first “concern troll.” Since we’re a new website, we weren’t sure what to do about him at first, so we let his comments through. We’ve been having a little back-and-forth in the comments section of my recent post on violence in my personal workplace, and I must say I feel good about my most recent comeback.
Fighting off a troll is everyday business in blogging, I know. But something about it feels very personal to me. Because lately I’ve been realizing how often, in real life, I’ve allowed myself to be completely derailed by people just like our little troll. I’ve allowed some of the men in my life to make me paranoid, to send me chasing my own tail. I’ve ended up a gaslight victim, shadowboxing with everyone, including myself.
Not anymore. And I have feminist blogs to thank for that. Via feminist blogging, I’ve found new friends and allies – women who exhibit bravery in the face of misogyny and abuse. Women (and menz!) who have taught me that rape culture is real and that we can fight against it.
I have watched my oldest friend name the abuse she suffered at the hands of a horrible man. And nothing is greater to me than seeing her now, thriving and beautiful. Because she did not stand down. Because she fought for herself and came out whole, a marvelous and talented woman who teaches me something about myself everyday. Because of her, and because of all the women I’ve met through blogging, I will not stand down.
The world isn’t easy to change. But there are plenty of people out there trying, and I’m proud to join the fray.